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Amongst my own researches during the last few weeks, I avidly followed the Tapping World Summit, along with 300,000 other people. This is definitely a tool that works, and works well. I obviously wasn’t alone in thinking this, as the number of tweets and twitters for each speaker increased each day.

I started out listening to the two speakers each day with my usual level of scepticism. We are often, especially on the internet, promised great cures for all kinds of things, so I approach with caution. It’s always important to look at how any new ideas fit into the frameworks and tools that already work for us, rather than throwing out everything we have already learned. Tapping fits comfortably with the tools and methods I already use, so it is a genuine addition.

All of the speakers stressed that if you have a particularly difficult trauma, it is better to get proffesional support. That is always true, but there are many areas we can safely work on our own. Many of the speakers at The Tapping Summit are highly qualified psychologists who have have incorporated Tapping into their client work. Each speaker had a unique approach, and bringing in different view points from their professional experience, although the Tapping routines largely remained the same.

These are just a few of my own personal highlights and insights which I believe are useful and thought provoking, whatever approach to Personal Development you are using.

Highlights

Margaret Tuttle – From Debt to Financial Wealth

Margaret deals with finances very specifically, using ‘money’ rather than just ‘abundance’, which she believes is a woolly term our minds don’t recognise. She got right down to basics, and explained how she splits money into 4 differing aspects; debt, income, savings and income goals or commitments. I found this way of looking at the differing ways we approach and feel about our money very helpful.

Margaret pointed out that our ‘bad’ feelings about debt need to be cleared before we can begin to move forward to financial success. Having debt is traumatic and does impact our everyday actions and thoughts around money. Until we acknowledge how we feel, and clear it, it does continue to block our way forward.

The Tapping process, always begins with this  acknowledging of our negative feelings and clearing them, before moving on to the commitments we want to make. Recognising the differing aspects of money also enables us to be clearer on our goals. Are we wanting a pay rise, or to increase our savings, or to find a whole new way to bring income into our lives? Obviously, the clearer we are on our goals, the more likely we will be to achieve them, and be inspired on the steps to take towards them.

Self Confidence Boosting

One of the reasons I recommend Tapping, is the way that it separates our negative feelings from our feelings about ourselves. Each statement about the problem or negative feeling, is also accompanied by a statement on accepting ourselves. For example, from Margaret’s session:

” Even though I have all this debt, and it is so real, so overwhelming, I totally honour who I am, and accept my feelings about it.”

This is very important! When we have negative feelings we immediately compound them by feeling bad about ourselves. We blame ourselves  for whatever it was we think we did to get into this situation, for even having negative feelings. To love and own ourselves, whatever we are feeling, whatever is going on in our lives is a vital first step in healing. In fact, it is a gift of life for all of us. If you used nothing else from tapping, this one thing, the ability to remember to love, honour and accept yourself in your bad moments, will bring the most incredible relief, all by itself.

Mary Ayers  – Zero to Hero

I absolutely adored Mary. She explained, so succinctly, how the minute we start thinking about stepping forward, our mind and body are already running their protection programme – called Fear. Just realising that this is a natural and protective programme aimed at keeping us safe, takes some of the sting out. We can even see how funny it is, and that goes a long way to busting the process. It is so obvious that when we are about to step out and do something we have no experience of, our mind is going to want to keep us safe. In the past we have already found that new experiences and change can be painful, hence these fear responses will only increase with age.

Dealing with fear is a great way to use tapping, to acknowledge and reduce it, before tapping our commitment to our goals and actions. Wherever we have fear of that dangerous place, the unknown, tapping is clearly a great way to get past it. It’s not just a one time process, for as Mary points out, we need to keep going for long enough for our actions to make a difference. Change always takes time, and too often we aren’t able to sustain our new actions for long enough for them to become habits.

Acknowledging our Wholeness AND our emotions

Mary’s start point for tapping on fear will ring so many bells, I include it here, with apologies for the length. So often it helps just to know we aren’t alone, and I am sure we all know these places, but perhaps don’t love ourselves enough through them.

“Even though my body starts to run my fear response, as soon as I think about taking action, as soon as I think about making the decision to take action, I accept that it’s just my body’s response.

Even though I start to get that familiar feeling, of anxiety, just thinking about the future, just thinking about deciding, I accept myself even with these feelings

Even though my mind and body gets so overwhelmed, with emotion, when I even think about taking action, when I even think about making this decision, I am accepting that this is how I do it now, and perhaps I can find other ways of responding.”

Nick Ortner – Tapping to Achieve Your Goals

Nick, a lead in founding the summit, described how he felt inspired to make a documentary film on Tapping. He hadn’t a clue where to begin, with neither the skills nor the money to carry out his project. Basically, he said he just tapped his way through. Every fear and problem that came up, he tapped on it. You can see the results and find out more about his video, The Tapping Solution (formerly “Try It On Everything”) and pick up a Free Copy of the Tapping EBook here.

is a Documentary Film that Explores Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT), a New Discovery that Combines Ancient Chinese Acupressure and Modern Psychology with Startling Results!

My Tapping Results Todate

There is quite a lot going on in my life at the moment that requires active responses from me in a range of life areas. Getting up the other morning, I looked at what needed doing, and could see I might have one of those days where I did anything but the things on my list. So, I decided that I didn’t want to go down that route, and that I would use this new tool and tap my way through my day.

I frequently do my ‘morning pages’. These work because in acknowledging how our feelings right after we wake up, we often clear the negative thoughts and feelings away. That is similar to how the initial acknowledging of feelings in tapping works, but with the tapping it becomes more focussed, more connected. So I wrote and tapped for just a few minutes. Then I started writing ‘My Perfect Day’, which is where I list the things I would like to do and achieve in my day.

I had only written down two things, when I felt impelled to rush off happily and do one of them. Then I came back to the list, and started to write some more … with the same effect!! I think it was lunch time before I managed to finish the list of my perfect day. In between was lots of inspired activity, all of which was to the point, not the distractions I can often come up with.

It was as if the ‘threat’ of my tapping my way through the day, caused my procrastinating fear mind to give up on all of its subterfuges. Apart from the initial tapping on how I was feeling, I didn’t need to do any tapping the rest of the day. Now, this was probably beginner’s luck, and next time I won’t hesitate to tap my way through one of these days.

Understanding lifts so many barriers for us, and I really found this an illuminating series of talks. I will definately be recommending next Year’s Tapping Summit and any useful materials on Tapping released throughout the year.

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Further Information and Resources

The free Tapping Ebook here

Mary Ayers has THE best summary of the 7 Causesof Procrastination on her site

Article originally published as a review at Wise Women Online. You can Subscribe here to be updated by email on the contents of the Wise Women Monthly magazine which is dedicated to save time and pain in people’s lives, and is a developing resource base of personal development materials, hintsand tips